A reward for a desired behavior can quickly backfire

External rewards should be avoided.

It can be very tempting to use rewards or perks to get our child to do something. Giving a child a reward for a desired behavior can quickly backfire because the child comes to expect the reward every time.

They may comply with your wishes, but they are also becoming extrinsically motivated.

Rewarding children for activities they want to do, such as coloring with markers, decreases the child's desire to do the activity in the future. This could be because offering rewards conveys the message that an activity is inherently unpleasant, or that the child should not even want to or to be forced to do it if there is something in it for them.