Avoid external rewards

Avoid external rewards... 

It can be so tempting to turn to rewards or bribes to get our child to do something...

Offering a child a reward for a desired behavior can easily backfire, as they begin to expect the reward every time... They may do what you want, but they’re also becoming extrinsically motivated...That offering children rewards for activities they actually want to do, like coloring with markers, decreases the child’s desire to do the activity in the future... 

This may be because offering rewards sends the message that an activity is inherently unpleasant, or that the child should not want or have to do it unless there’s something in it for them...