Children need us to see them as whole human beings, not just the sum of their behaviors. They need us to listen to them, to validate their feelings and to take them seriously for who they are and the people into whom they will grow... They need our attention —and seeking it isn’t an inherently negative thing...
“And when they do not receive attention,” “they compensate in all kinds of ways: repressing their needs and wants, shouting and becoming aggressive or violent, going underground and harboring resentment alone, or seeking it from anyone who will give it to them.”..
When we replaced the idea of children seeking attention with children wanting a relationship, we began to talk differently about how, as adults, to react in relationship, we don’t ignore a person’s cry out for us; we become more present, listening and observing patiently...
Children need our love, touch and full-on attention to survive. They could die without it — indeed, some do.”
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